Misogynistic behaviours are not black and white, which can make them difficult to spot

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A couple on top of a mountain who are embracing and just about to kiss. They both have blankets around their shoulders.
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I was arguing on FaceTime with my now ex-partner about our financial dynamics. Not one to back down, I was trying to figure out why he was thinking this way.

At the time, we were discussing whether or not he would be okay with me making more money than him in the future. He said no.

I couldn’t hide my confusion. Statistically, I was going to make more money than him in the future based on my education level and professional career. I was pursuing an undergraduate degree while he only graduated at an “intermediate” high school level. Germans, you…


Spoiler alert: it doesn’t get easier, but I’ve found peace in my decisions

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The other day, I woke up and scrolled on Instagram, as I normally would, when I came across my ex’s story. It was a succession of pictures celebrating his three-year anniversary with his current partner.

I’m not going to lie — I did pause for a brief second because it confirmed a lot of suspicions I had over the years of whether or not he did end up dating this individual who I always had a feeling was something more when we were dating. Seems like my intuition was correct. But not the point of the story.

I also paused…


A personal discussion on two interconnected “natural” disasters that require our attention

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For those of us living in the Pacific North West, wildfire season is upon us, as there are over 295 currently in British Columbia.

However, this year has felt different.

We just experienced a severe and unprecedented heatwave, that may have possibly resulted in at least 808 deaths in British Columbia. And although the deaths have not been confirmed as heat-related, it’s definitely higher than the normal average of 198. I was one of the lucky ones that was able to have access to running water and ice, but many groups such as the homeless population weren’t so lucky.

The…


While we all do it sometimes, being able to spot the signs of being taken for granted will allow us to be better in relationships

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We all have very different and fulfilling relationships in our lives, whether that be with friends, romantic partners, family, etc…

However, there are times when we feel like we are being underappreciated or taken advantage of. We have all been there.

It’s important to recognize that all relationships ebb and flow. There will be times when you need to fill your loved one’s cup more than your own and vice versa. Compromises may need to be made but the key element to ensuring that it is sustainable and healthy is that it needs to be reciprocal.

My social circles have…


The history of sex work in two of the most glamourous cities in the world

Black and white photo of the outside of Moulin Rouge in Paris
Black and white photo of the outside of Moulin Rouge in Paris
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Sex work is one of the oldest professions known to humankind. In contemporary times, red light districts, most notably Amsterdam’s De Wallen, are fully functioning hubs for sex work and acts as tourist attractions.

For many of us who have travelled to large cities, such as Paris and Tokyo, we might be familiar with areas such as and Pigalle (where the infamous Moulin Rouge sign is located) and Kabuki-chō, which are the most well-known active red light districts for the respective cities.

Although these two…


Accomplishments are great and all, but let’s pursue what brings us joy instead

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It’s human nature to want to keep chasing something bigger and better. Ultimately, we are all working towards different goals and milestones in our lives, whether it’s making that 6-figure salary or graduating from university with the dream degree.

However, sometimes we just need to stop and smell the flowers.

Even though I’m in my early career stage — young, ambitious, and eager to take on new challenges, I’ve begun to wonder about what’s really important. My happiness.

As socializing picks up again, I find myself in…


The term implies that BIPOC are not meeting the expectations of their ethnic or racial stereotypes

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“Banana”

“Twinkie”

“Whitewashed”

These are three terms I am very familiar with and have been called throughout my whole life.

As a Vietnamese-Canadian who grew up in a predominately white suburban town, I have been subject to racially charged terms my whole life.

To be honest, I feel like I’ve never been fully bothered by it. In my mind, there was always someone who experienced much worse whether that be bullying or other types of harassment. I always told myself that someone always has it worse than me.

Recently, my brother and I have been engaging in conversations based on…


What does the data say about making money on Medium?

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An individual in front of the computer with the words “How do we keep up?” writing in a notebook and looking at a tablet with a chart on it
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I’m still in shock that it’s already July. Like where did all the time go?

After 6 months on Medium, I can confidently say that I am not a successful case study of someone who can make a lot of money on Medium. I still need to keep my day job (luckily, I love it) and I will continue to have one for the foreseeable long-term future.

However, I’ve really enjoyed my writing on Medium and feel that I’ve learned a lot from the process.

I’m a sucker for good data. So when I came across, Amardeep Parmar’s article titled…


An embarrassing story of how I accumulated so much debt, how I paid it off in 1.5 years, and why it will never happen again

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An individual in front of a laptop looking at a piece of paper in disbelief with a speech bubble saying “How could I let this happen?”
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I walked over to my city’s only authentic pizza restaurant to order takeout. I looked at the receipt and saw that it had cost 18 euros. Thinking nothing of it, I swiped my credit card, collected my pizza, and had a picnic with a friend by the river.

What was not so lovely was the credit card debt I was slowly racking up while on my study abroad program in the Netherlands.

Upon entering university…

Angela Phan

Just another ‘Zillennial’ trying to make sense of the world ✨. I write about relationships, self-development, climate, and everything in between.

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