Misogynistic behaviours are not black and white, which can make them difficult to spot

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I was arguing on FaceTime with my now ex-partner about our financial dynamics. Not one to back down, I was trying to figure out why he was thinking this way.

At the time, we were discussing whether or not he would be okay with me making more money than him in the future. He said no.

I couldn’t hide my confusion. Statistically, I was going to make more money than him in the future based on my education level and professional career. I was pursuing an undergraduate degree while he only graduated at an “intermediate” high school level. Germans, you…

Spoiler alert: it doesn’t get easier, but I’ve found peace in my decisions

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The other day, I woke up and scrolled on Instagram, as I normally would, when I came across my ex’s story. It was a succession of pictures celebrating his three-year anniversary with his current partner.

I’m not going to lie — I did pause for a brief second because it confirmed a lot of suspicions I had over the years of whether or not he did end up dating this individual who I always had a feeling was something more when we were dating. Seems like my intuition was correct. But not the point of the story.

I also paused…

I should be jumping with joy about getting into this school, yet, I’m dreading it a bit

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“How do you feel? You must be really excited!”

I stared back at my supervisors for a short while, unsure of how to answer the question.

“To be honest the excitement hasn’t hit me yet. I don’t know if it will.”

I am God awful at a lot of things. I’m extremely clumsy, I cannot play a sport that involves a ball or a stick-like appendage (so pretty much any sport), and I’m a bit of a frazzled human being in general.

But for some reason, I have always thrived in an academic setting.

Pursuing post-secondary was never a question…

Being single does not mean a life of loneliness — it can be one of the most formative chapters of your life

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For anyone that has gone through it or is going through it, your 20s are a confusing period of your life.

Either your friends and the people you went to school with are settling down, getting married, purchasing their first home, and having children or globetrotting across the world, living their best single life.

Of course, there is everyone in between who is just plain confused about their future. This is the category I fall under.

Everyone’s life paths are starting to become a bit more defined, and I don’t know about you, but the thought of that is terrifying.

You most likely already do them, but it can have a much bigger impact than you previously thought

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In our current digital age, the concept of a “writer” has evolved and shifted. When we think of a “writer”, we think about traditional writing jobs such as novelists, journalists, and columnists.

However, the internet and social media have changed the playing field. Many individuals who don’t come from technical writing backgrounds are breaking the barriers to writing careers in the form of content creation, freelancing, and social media.

While the concept of a writer continues to change, we also must think about our audiences and who we write to. In this day and age, the internet has made information…

I finally made it to the $100 club — without a bonus

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July has been a whirlwind of a month. Started preparing for a big move across the pond, as I’ll be starting a new chapter of my life on a new continent come September.

I also spent the second half of the month, and even into this one, recovering from a dental surgery so it’s also felt quite slow-paced.

I’m finally pleased to announce that I made it into Medium’s elusive $100 club — without the bonuses. Let’s see how I got there.

My Stats

Articles Written and Published

In July I wrote 7 articles…

Personally, I don’t see the point of it

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Edit: This piece was written before Medium announced its Medium Writer’s Challenge. The writing challenge spoken about in this article is the 30-day writing challenge. However, I won’t be participating in Medium’s either, but a story for another time perhaps.

When I open my Medium front page, I’ll usually find an article or two that is being recommended about the experiences, takeaways, or results of participating in writing challenges.

As of recently, I’ve seen a lot of articles about the 30-day challenge on Medium. Heck, there is even a whole publication dedicated to it.

Of course, at first, I was…

A personal discussion on two interconnected “natural” disasters that require our attention

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For those of us living in the Pacific North West, wildfire season is upon us, as there are over 295 currently in British Columbia.

However, this year has felt different.

We just experienced a severe and unprecedented heatwave, that may have possibly resulted in at least 808 deaths in British Columbia. And although the deaths have not been confirmed as heat-related, it’s definitely higher than the normal average of 198. I was one of the lucky ones that was able to have access to running water and ice, but many groups such as the homeless population weren’t so lucky.


While we all do it sometimes, being able to spot the signs of being taken for granted will allow us to be better in relationships

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We all have very different and fulfilling relationships in our lives, whether that be with friends, romantic partners, family, etc…

However, there are times when we feel like we are being underappreciated or taken advantage of. We have all been there.

It’s important to recognize that all relationships ebb and flow. There will be times when you need to fill your loved one’s cup more than your own and vice versa. Compromises may need to be made but the key element to ensuring that it is sustainable and healthy is that it needs to be reciprocal.

My social circles have…

Angela Phan

Just another ‘Zillennial’ trying to make sense of the world ✨. I write about relationships, self-development, climate, and everything in between.

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